26K likes, 463 comments - raquel_the_capacity_expert on April 8, 2025: "Most people can name how they feel.

“I’m angry.”

“I’m sad.”

“I’m overwhelmed.”

But the moment they feel it, they need somewhere to place it.

Someone to blame.

Something to fix.

Some part of themselves to defend.

I know because I’ve done it too.

I remember saying I was angry about my mom’s death because she didn’t think about her kids before using drugs.

But with time—and honesty—I realized I wasn’t just angry.

I was deeply sad that she was gone.

Not mad at her.

Just hurting.

And I tried to fix that feeling quickly by saying, “I’ll never be like her.”

But here’s what no one tells you—

You can avoid her choices and still hurt people in your own way.

You can do better and still carry unprocessed pain.

That’s what this work is really about.

Not just naming what you feel.

But learning how to sit with it without needing a villain, without rushing to fix it, without turning it into proof that you’re broken.

It’s not easy.

But it’s how you build capacity.

It’s how you build trust with yourself.

Can you feel what you feel… without trying to escape it?

Grab my ebook in my bio if you are ready to start expanding your capacity. I explore your relationship with discomfort, change and uncertainty. Link in bio.".